How To Stop Playing
Victim: Part 2
by Larry Heisler, M.A., LMT
"Nobody can make your feel inferior without your
When you finally have come to the realization that the
purpose of your life is to grow in every way possible
and that every experience,
every circumstance in your life
is directly supporting that theme of your evolving,
on that day,
you will begin to come into your power!
You might not know it yet but
YOU ARE LIVING IN AN INTERACTIVE UNIVERSE.
theme is for you to grow and then to use your powers to
uplift and inspire those around you.
It's the Prime Directive.
To grow and to serve.
You are not
And the part of you that gives away its power and thinks its suffering,
little stinky EGO.
It's your little stinky EGO that gets angry, it's your little stinky
EGO that gets impatient, and fearful and insecure and jealous and
every negative, whining, reactionary emotion.
It's your little stinky, immature, lower self, that keeps you
separate from your divinity,
EGO that wants to be in control.
Every time you play victim,
you give away your power and open yourself to all
In Yoga your lower Ego self is the dark side that keeps
you embroiled in illusion and keeps you separated from the higher
road, your light within.
Your lower self can't handle the truth.
So the people and the circumstances that shine the light
of truth on your inequities and consequently press your Ego's big
reactionary, insecure buttons,
are not your enemies,
the people that press your buttons are your teachers!
That's how St. Theresa became a Saint.
You might have heard this before.
It's easy to be an angel when
no one ruffles your feathers. Acting not reacting is the path to your personal
Look at it like this.
Jim and Scott go out every morning for a walk and
to buy the daily newspapers. When they arrive at the newspaper stand,
Jim proceeds to the counter.
"Good morning, Jim says to
good about it," the owner grumbles and continues by
do you want today?"
"I'd like a
N.Y. Times and the local paper please", says Jim.
The owner throws the papers down, grabs the cash and walks gruffly
Jim goes back to walking with Scott.
"What is wrong with that guy? Scott says incredulously.
Doesn't that bother you?"
Jim turns to Scott and says the following,
"His behavior is unfortunate but I won't allow another person to
decide for me how I am going to feel for the rest of the day.
His behavior is his problem, when I react to it, it's becomes my
This simple story illustrates clearly how not to be used
and enslaved by another persons emotionally neurotic behavior.
If they want to live in hell, that's their choice.
BE THANKFUL FOR YOUR TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS,
Instead of seeing them as bad luck and suffering,
see them as you taking the warrior's path this lifetime.
In your Sacred Contract,
you chose an all powerful path.
A challenging, intense road,
so that you could evolve as fast as humanly possible.
Like a spiritual warrior.
Whenever you face adversity like a master soul,
and take the high road,
you are a spiritual warrior
SEE YOURSELF FROM THIS DAY ON AS A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR.
Thich Nhat Hanh says,
"We are here to awaken from the illusion of our
"The offering up or cleaning up ego stuff is
called purification. Purification is the act of letting go. This is
done out of discriminative awareness. That is, you understand that
you are an entity passing through a life in which the entire drama is
an offering for your awakening. You see that the life experience is a
vehicle for becoming conscious, for becoming liberated. And you
understand ultimately that's what you are doing here."
Dr. Richard Alpert, a.k.a. Ram Dass
Developing emotional clarity is the process of getting
off the pendulum of sensation, of reaction.
The ups and downs of an emotional roller coaster life.
outside world decides for us how we feel,
we are a
Sai Baba says,
"In praise and blame, always the same."
So the next time you see yourself reacting, are
throwing a temper tantrum, pouting, giving the silent treatment
or even with-holding your love,
remember your lower self,
your dark side is in control.
It's an emotional immaturity that has its basis in fear.
And for the record...
conditional love, love that is withheld until specific demands are
is not love at all, it's more like commerce or an arranged
ONE MORE VERY IMPORTANT FACT...
THE LESSON KEEPS COMING AROUND UNTIL YOU GET THE
Being firm, holding your center and learning how not to
play victim is the Master's Path. It certainly beats being dragged
through the emotional meat grinder, day in and day out.
strengthen your mind, you'll cut through life's melodrama,
darkness with your higher resolve,
power behind your heart and mind
and create a
can change your world and the world around you.